Encouraging Social and Emotional Learning

Any parent or child specialist will tell you that adolescence is a time filled with experimentation and self-exploration as children try to figure out who they are and what is important to them. During this time, children are building their inter- and intrapersonal skills, learning to be aware both of themselves and the emotions of those around them.

This journey is a normal part of a child’s development, although it is often overlooked in school curriculums as they focus more on cognitive learning. The emotional and social stresses of growing are real though, and often land on the shoulders of parents, at a time when children are simultaneously trying to assert their independence from them.

Kimberly Hackett, a Social and Emotional Learning Consultant and therapist, understands the importance of social and emotional learning and offers parents tips for helping their children grow into socially responsible and compassionate adults.

The Right Way to Listen
Having a parent who listens and offers support can be crucial for a child forming his or her identity. It’s important to listen without passing judgment, so your child will continue to turn to you for support, but also to because it allows a children to work through their emotions and experiences alone, taking responsibility for who they are and what they value.

Promote Self-Reflection
While reflection takes time to develop and become a natural habit, parents can encourage their children to objectively look at their behaviors, beliefs and values. The practice can take creative forms—from relating what’s happening on TV to important real life issues, or having discussions at the dinner table.

Encourage Creativity
Understanding one’s identity can lead to unfamiliar territory. Creative activities allow children to explore this in safe ways, whether it’s through art, sports, fashion, theater, dance or other activities. You can encourage your child simply by showing a genuine interest in what they work hard to create.

Learn From Mistakes
We all know mistakes make for great lessons and are a crucial part of growing up, and even being an adult. The positive side is that in order to make mistakes one must take a chance and step outside of his or her comfort zone—an experience that always leads to important growth and reflection.

No Pain, No Gain
As parents we often want to swoop down and rescue our children when they are feeling down. While this is certainly a normal part of being a parent, it’s also important to remember that some things your child has to discover or explore on his or her own. It’s true it can be hard to see your formerly-happy teen be riddled with insecurity and doubt, but this allows children to learn firsthand to balance the good and bad, and find self-acceptance in difficult situations.

Developing social and emotional skills allows children to lead fuller, happier lives where they can support and encourage themselves and others, and take responsibility in a world where compassion is a necessity.

Source: Hackett, Kimberly. “Eight Ways to Promote Social and Emotional Learning in Your Adolescent.” adolescentwork.wordpress.com.